Circle of Life and Your Circle of Friends

By September 24, 2010 March 15th, 2011 LIFE, LOVE

Hands up if you’ve ever been hurt or disappointed by loved ones… Really ALL of you and lies the truth we are never alone.

Sometimes we have too many expectations on our nearest and dearest, you see we often wonder and have that feeling of not being supported and that feeling of “I’m always there for you and you’re never there for me”. Business is the same I have clients that have said to me that family and friends have let them down by not supporting or buying their product and in the past I have often felt frustrated by friends and family not understanding what I do and not really caring. I often wondered why they had such a blank look on their faces when I was telling them something that was super exciting about what I’m doing.

It’s not that they don’t care they’re just in a different circle

There are two circles that people fall into and most people have a mind frame that isn’t conducive to success. They let negative thoughts control their thinking, it maybe from themselves or the people around them. They look at successful people and they think they have “tall poppy syndrome” and it has just been handed to them. More times then not these people always think of themselves and everything they do comes from fear and anger. They actually attract, manifest failure and disappointment because of their thoughts. It is easy for them to stay home watch TV and listen to the news on how horrendous the world is therefore breeding more negativity.

Embrace life… grab it by the reins and create your own journey

These people make a choice they have made the decision to be on this road…this journey. On this road there is no blame because blame has no resolution and we can’t get back up if we blame and we always get back up. Where most people give up we keep going. Passion and persistence pays off and we know that positive action equals positive results. When we talk about value we understand that it’s not about you it’s about what you can give and that creates win: win situations emotionally and financially. You attract the right people at the right time for the right reasons, trust that everyone around us is teaching us something and sometimes the more it hurts the bigger the lesson we have to learn.

The predicament is it’s enviable that even though we are in this circle we have people around us that are in the first circle that can and will zap us dry because they take what we give thinking it is all about them so there is no win: win. To overcome this we must never absorb their negative thoughts you can hear them but never absorb them. Say NO because we’re all about giving and we can easily get caught up in this cycle but think every time you say yes to something you don’t have time to do or you say yes because that’s just what you do and who you are surrendering to the first circle and saying no to yourself…you must say yes to yourself and this will be your biggest challenge.

TIP- Surround yourself with people who know you and your goals which make you want to be a better person. They encourage you, they tell you when you’re leaning to the other circle and they help you GET.BACK.UP

If you know someone who is swaying to the other side give them a settle nudge and share this post with them.

Join the discussion 7 Comments

  • Mad Cow says:

    Nice!

    I don’t take the family and friends thiing personally. Most of them aren’t my target market, so why would i want themm/force them to buy from me?? 🙂

    Great post again, Renee, well done 🙂

  • Bra Queen says:

    Aww thank you! I totally agree a wasted energy and one you can not change 🙂 xx

  • bell says:

    Well….sounds like someone familar! You think you get use to it but you still get shocked every time it happens. But you are right about it all though…lucky we have our friends who set us back on track in our rights circle. For them i am forever grateful x

  • A thought has occurred to me {given my complete australian status} I thought I would ask if this “wasted energy” is universal? The second reason I ask is to my {often amazement} I notice families that act like families who are supporting of each other and interested in what everyone does in that family and beyond. So is it universal or is it a mindset or a bit of both?

    Like the article btw.

    • braqueen says:

      Great question Michele, I think it is universal definately and it is a mindset and for some people/families they are aware of the greater good so to speak and therefore install it into their children however if it isn’t installed in us then then it is possible for us to change the they we think and adapt to a much more pleasant and proactive mindset.

      Bell- It is a shock as much as we know them but we get back up and try not to take it personally (easier said then done sometimes) xxx
      Renee xx

  • Dani says:

    TOTALLY get it Renee!!!!
    I have someone who is really getting to meet lately and I had already decided to IGNORE what this person CONTINUALLY says to me……basically they think i wont be able to do what I WANT to do, so what , should I just not even TRY because they think I cant do it???? I THINK NOT!!!! xo * vent over 🙂 *

    • braqueen says:

      We have every right to do what we want to do and by doing so we serve others better. Water off a ducks back because you never never know if you never never go!
      I THINK NOT AS WELL! haha

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