Understanding Life & Moving Forward

Everything happens in the perfect time and space sequence, with every experience in your life helps put the puzzle together. Every person that enters our life is brought to us for a reason they are there to challenge us, to help us see something and to inspire us. Some will stay in our lives for a short period while others will be there for long period.

We all have things we need to address and get over so I want you to take a moment and write those things down. For me it was-

1. Stop being surrounded by abusive people
2. To know that I am a wonderful person who deserves to be around wonderful people….so are you.
3. My need for acceptance- that void is my issue and my issues only. The only person I need acceptance from is myself.
4. Contrary to what I was brought up to believe I am actually really intelligent.

Now once you have written them down I want you to write how you can address them and overcome them. For me-

1. Literally removing myself from the equation then going as far away as I could to work on myself and find myself.
2. Surround myself with nice people personally and professionally.
3. I identified where it stems from and moved on.
4. I now know to be intelligent is not solely defined by academics. My spelling and grammar is far from excellent however it does not make me stupid, it just means I have to put extra effort in that area.

People through out your life have taught you some key notes that changed your life, the unsung heroes. For me-

1. Tom- When I didn’t believe that any person could be in a happy relationship said “The hardest thing you will ever do is be in a relationship and it takes two and constant work”
2. Judy- She saved my life that day and I was one step ahead in breaking the cycle of abuse forever.
3. Chris- 12 years ago when we met I used to describe him as “A boy version of me” to say he was my soul mate I don’t know. I think everyone has a soul mate but I don’t think your soul mate is the person you’re supposed to be with for ever. I see a soul mate as a way to see things within yourself that are awesome and something’s you may need to improve and we can only indentify them when they are in another person. So through Chris I was able to see a way of life that was appealing also some characteristics within me that I needed to address. As alike as what we were 12 years ago we are so different now and we couldn’t be happier.

You and only you are able to change it, there’s no blame because it is no one’s fault as long as you are blaming you can’t move forward. What you can do is ask yourself this:

What are you going to do to stop that from happening again?

Bounce forward not back and always move forward