Why settle? All of those years ago when I was in an abusive relationship where drugs and alcohol would determine if I was going to get beaten that night or not….always praying not, longing that he was going to be in a good mood. Even back when I was in the thick of such violence I knew this was not my life. I was meant for more, I deserve more. Maybe that’s why now I have a laser like vision of what I want in my life and who I want in my life, I don’t know.
As alone and as scared as I was I knew there was more and I wasn’t happy with my life but I settled for it for long time. Now I take action. Sometimes in life you have the opportunity to start over while other times you have to create the opportunity. Either way we must always have an honest conversation with yourself.
- Is this what I want from my life?
- If I could do anything what I would do?
- What can I do to turn things around?
Living life with complete congruency requires laser like focus and the ability to not be swayed by other peoples idealism’s. When you realise that life isn’t what you want it to be, you do what is necessarily to get it back on track. For example- My partner and I always wanted to do a renovation but always put in off because it was just “too hard”. So we always found excuses, we ended up going with “If we just move an extra 10 mins out we can build a brand new house” and we did we built a beautiful big house. After a short time we got to the point of “Is this it?” we felt as if we should at least enjoy the house and give it time. There was also the discussion of “What will people think? We just moved in.” It really came down to this:
- Do what is right for you regardless of what others say
- Listen to your heart
- Follow your heart
- Make it happen
And it did, we moved into a smaller older house that has the most incredible view, we will renovate and we couldn’t be happier. Turns out we are just 3 doors down from a house that we were so close to buying 4 years ago…a sliding doors moment?
Time to surrender to what is….
Totally agree!!!!!
I know it is so exciting!