When you drive down a road everyday over time it gets pot holes, usually the council will come along and refill the pot hole. Eventually it happens again because the whole area and the underlying problem wasn’t fixed.
We do the exact same thing through out our lives.
We pretend because we don’t want to open ourselves up to vulnerability, it stems from fear and shame. We become numb and what we don’t realise is by allowing ourselves to become numb we are numbing all areas of our lives. Leaving us unable to experience joy, love and happiness so the uncertain becomes certain…it’s a vicious cycle. We blame because it takes the pain and judgement away. As long as there is blame then you have not moved on, you are still stuck in your nightmare.
To allow yourself to be vulnerable is allowing yourself to love, been seen and heard even though you don’t know how it’s going to go. To have gratitude and joy is saying “I am enough”.
Recipe for happiness
- Courage: The state or quality of mind or spirit that enables one to face danger, fear, or vicissitudes with self-possession, confidence, and resolution.
- Compassion: Deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it.
- Connection: A person, especially one of influence or importance, with whom one is associated, as by kinship or common interests.
- Vulnerability: Is essential like breathing and invest in the unknown…wholeheartedly. It makes you live.
Great outline re blame. I’m getting out of that nightmare right now!
Great to hear it Karen, I think we’ve all walked that path and sadly many still do and probably always will but not us! Keep up the great work. Rx