Tuesday, December 12th, 2017

Finding Love


My Mum has always said to me “You have to love yourself before you love any body else” and much like any advice you receive when you’re young you don’t really “get” it.

From a very young age I remember having a crush on boys but thought they would never “like” me because there were so many other prettier girls. When the girls called me ugly I believe them, when they used to bully me, egg me and throw things at me it was because they said I was “ugly”.  As the years went on I begun to realise that I wasn’t ugly however there was still that feeling of not being worthy enough so I loved getting attention from boys.

Any love that you have to rely on from others will be short lived

You can’t really love when you have to feed off validation from other people because as much as you think you are longing for their love it is in fact the love from yourself that you need.

You are enough, just as you are, you are enough.

Know that and love that always and forever.

Even in your darkest hour on your darkest day don’t question yourself, if you are step away and take time out. No matter what you look like, what size you are, what you have or don’t have it doesn’t matter you are enough.

Once you realise this you are able to attract a love that you’ve only read about. Just like we think about what career we would like we can think about what kind of person we want to be with. Are they funny, good looking, intelligent what kind of person are they? Go one step further…what kind of partner do you want to be?

Then we find love.


6 Responses to “Finding Love”
  1. Dorothy says:

    That’s a lovely post, Renee… Thank you…!

    Can very much relate to this right now… Have been thinking lots about the kind of relationship I want, the kind of partner I want and about how I want to be with them… Hopefully, that will lead somewhere…

    • bustingout says:

      Thanks Dorothy, I find that when you are single people tend to think and live in hope about “one day I will find love” and that’s living in the future and if we can stop that and live in today and try and focus on the love you have already in your life and not what you dont have then this will create a shift in your life and it will come. You are really on the right track and you have come such a long way, well done I am so happy for you xxx

  2. Karen says:

    Enjoying reading your posts. They always seem to arrive just at the right time. Quick to read with a wealth of spot on life tips. Thanks Renee.

    • bustingout says:

      Oh Karen it is my absolute pleasure and you know I believe that everything happens at the perfect time. Thanks for popping in and saying HI xxx

  3. ???????? says:

    Yes! Finally someone writes about ???????.

  4. ???? says:

    This is a really good tip especially to those fresh to the blogosphere.
    Short but very precise info… Thank you for sharing this one.
    A must read post!

Speak Your Mind

Tell us what you're thinking...
and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar!